As a marketer, your job is to influence people’s perceptions and behaviors, and persuasive writing is key to your success.
This is why you’ve got to stop opening your sentences with the word “I.”
When you begin sentences with “I,” they force the communication to be about YOU and YOUR perspective, such as:
- From a hotel sales rep reaching out to a meeting planner: I would like a few minutes of your time to introduce you to ABC Hotel.
- From a member of another department within your company: I need this by 2pm or I can’t make my deadline.
- From a job applicant in a cover letter: I’m looking for an opportunity that will help me grow.
In each of those examples, the approach focused on the WRITER’S need, not the READER’S need. So there’s that reader, just sitting at their computer trying to juggle their own jam packed to-do list and busy life demands. And then you drop into their email, Teams chat, Slack channel, or whatever and add something to their unwieldy pile that YOU want or YOU need.
Why on earth should they care what YOU want?
Here’s the thing. By starting the sentence with “I,” you’re subtly putting the power in their hands. You’re not giving a compelling enough reason for them to be moved to whatever action you’re trying to inspire. Essentially, you’re making their cooperation a choice based on whether or not they have the time and inclination to do what you’re asking.
Reframing the sentences so YOU aren’t the focus makes them more persuasive. You can do this by positioning the perspective from THEIR point of view, or removing the you/them point of view entirely and giving the sentence a third party perspective:
- You need a hotel that delivers X, Y, and Z for your meetings, and ABC Hotel delivers that and more.
- Here’s why ABC Hotel is rated “5/5 – Most Memorable Meeting Ever” on 95% of post-meeting surveys.
- Your numbers are needed by 2pm or the team’s deadline can’t be met.
- The numbers are needed by 2pm or the team’s deadline can’t be met.
- Your company has all the elements on my wish list, so I’ll dive right in enthusiastically from day one.
- Growth is important to me, and I can see that’s one of your company’s key values.
This sort of reframing doesn’t guarantee that the reader will do as you ask, of course. But psychologically, removing the self-centered approach gives it a more compelling foundation.
Further, this “no I” trick is useful even beyond situations where you’re asking for some sort of action. Watch how using “I” can dilute the strength of so many other messages:
- When sharing a fabulous report: I am pleased to share the latest report.
- When delivering a proposal: I have attached the proposal you requested.
- When confirming something: I just wanted to let you know that the cost has been approved.
You may not be trying to directly persuade the reader of anything with those messages, but all of them are weak, passive and typical. And self-centered, too…for example, why does it matter if you’re pleased? In messages like this, why are you drawing the focus onto yourself, when the focus should really be on the report, proposal, or cost?
Plus, let’s take this one step further: passive messages like that miss opportunities to grab your reader’s attention. Even if those messages aren’t directly asking for action, you do still want the reader to care, especially if the subjects are worthy of some spotlight. You can seize the chance to prime the pump, so to speak:
- The latest report is going to knock your socks off.
- The latest report shares some interesting surprises.
- The latest report shows a strong rebound from last quarter’s stumble.
- Everything you requested – plus one fun surprise – is in the attached proposal.
- Here’s why you’re going to love the attached proposal.
- The attached proposal meets your vision for the event…plus a little extra thrown in for fun.
- The cost has been approved with all the additions you requested.
- (Person’s Name) approved the cost in its entirety.
- It’s exciting that the full cost was approved!
Each one of those examples grabs attention way more than the original vanilla-sounding “I” phrase.
There ARE circumstances, however, when it could actually be MORE persuasive – or at least more impactful – to begin your sentence with “I,” such as:
- When you’re giving your word or making a promise. “I promise you…” is so much more meaningful than “You are promised that…”
- When a personal apology is needed and you need to clearly accept responsibility for something you or your company did wrong. “I take full responsibility for the error and here’s what I’m going to do to make things right.” (But do you actually need to say the words “I’m sorry?” Find out here.)
- When expressing your perspective would be impactful and appreciated. “I’ve written hundreds of proposals in my time, but crafting yours was the most fun I’ve ever had because…”
As a marketer, it’s important that you know when you should and shouldn’t begin your sentences with “I.” So one key to persuasive writing is awareness of the choice and then choosing wisely.
If this is a habit of yours – and don’t feel bad if it is because it’s pretty common – here’s one way you can break it. Periodically pick a day or even a week and take the “No-I-Challenge.” During the period you set, commit to not starting a single sentence with the word “I”…not even the ones where it doesn’t matter, such as “I have a doctor’s appointment at 1pm.” (“The doctor is seeing me at 1pm today.”)
It will be HARD and you’ll likely be frustrated at first. Wrapping your brain around how to reframe perspective will force you to think about wording in ways you don’t normally use. But that’s the whole point! Any new thing you learn feels awkward at first, but I promise you it gets easier as your awareness level grows.
But do yourself a favor and don’t cheat, ok? Replacing “I” with “We” still keeps the perspective with the writer, not the reader. And just dropping the “I,” as in “Wanted to share this report,” is majorly cheating. We all see that “I” even though it’s not there.
Overall, you’ll find that your writing will evolve to become stronger and more persuasive as you focus on shifting your sentences in this way.
For more persuasive writing tips:
The worst opening line for an email.
Here’s how to stop being an impatient writer.
Four writing tips to make tourism marketing more persuasive.