Let’s cut right to the chase: “I hope you are well” is by far the worst opening line for an email. Or a letter. Or a LinkedIn message. Or any really any kind of communication, but especially when you’re trying to get the reader’s attention for something important to you…a sale, a deadline, a call to action, and so on.
Here’s why, and here’s what to use instead.
WHY IT’S BAD
It is – by a landslide – the most commonly used opening line in communications. That means people see it so often, they’re desensitized to it. It’s become a trite, meaningless phrase.
And worse than that, because it’s so overused, it feels disingenuous to the reader. Like…does the sales rep hawking event space or the colleague asking for your input on a report REALLY hope you are well? In truth, it’s likely they haven’t given much thought your well-being. Rather, they have something they need to tell you or get from you. You know it. They know it. Hence, disingenuous.
Here’s why this is a problem: humans have tiny attention spans. We are distracted, we multitask, and (thanks to technology) we get bombarded with way more communication than we can handle.
What gets our attention? When something is DIFFERENT.
So if you want someone to pay attention to the message you’re sending – engage with it, feel something, do something, or even just read the damn thing – why start the communication with a boring sentence that’s predisposed to make their eyes glaze over?
This is especially true for folks who work in marketing, sales, public relations, and journalism. You should never bait your hook with a forgettable line like “I hope you are well.”
WHY WE USE IT SO OFTEN
It’s like a way for writers to warm up before writing. You sit down to your computer and you don’t quite know how to start your message, so you type out that nice, generic opening line to get your brain started. Then you can segue into writing the REAL part of the message.
It’s akin to warm-ups for athletes before a competition or singers before a show.
The thing is…warm-ups are boring to watch. Just like they’re boring to read. They should be done behind the scenes and be invisible to the audience.
But writers, just like readers, are distracted, multitask, and have tiny human attention spans. So when we sit down to write something, we just want to GET IT DONE. Sitting there, staring at the screen trying to think what to write? That feels like wasting time. We get antsy. We get impatient.
So we fire off some version of “I hope you are well” and it gives our brain that dopamine hit that says, “I’m not wasting time, I’m actually writing something.”
Rinse and repeat this pattern often enough and soon it becomes a mindless habit. And voila: the worst opening line for an email becomes your comfortable go-to.
WHAT TO USE INSTEAD
Oh… you wanted a one-size-fits-all answer? Alas, effective writing doesn’t come from a cookie cutter.
You can still have your warm-up. Just make it “thinking time” instead of an empty phrase irrelevant to your purpose. Indeed, the best result will come when you craft an opening line tailored to the relevance of your message. Some examples that have crossed my inbox:
- From a job seeker: When I read your job posting, it stopped me in my tracks and made me instantly want to apply.
- From an industry colleague: Your website sent me down a rabbit hole of joyfulness.
- From a realtor: NYC real estate is a blood sport.
Yes, it takes a little longer to come up with an opening line that stands out from the sea of sameness. But isn’t it worth it if it grabs your reader’s attention? If they engage with your opening line, they’ll be more likely to keep reading. And if the opening line is related to your core message, you’re wisely priming the pump.
Still not convinced? I’ve got two words for you: PREVIEW PANE. In email, LinkedIn messaging, and most forms of electronic communication, the recipient’s inbox is often set up so they can see a preview of the message before opening it. DO YOU REALLY WANT THAT PREVIEW TO BE “I HOPE YOU ARE WELL?” Ugh, it’s a waste of coveted, influential space that tortures my little marketing heart.
Listen, if you are in a massive hurry and absolutely have to “show” your warm up to your audience, at least make it different than the overused “I hope you are well.” You can try either of these:
- Happy (day of the week)! You could also use the month instead, if it’s the start of a new month.
- Hello from (location)! This is useful if your recipient is far away (“Hello from NYC” to someone in Georgia) or even in a different part of your building (“Hello from the 4th Floor!”).
But if you want to break the habit of using the worst opening line for an email, these additional resources will help:
Here’s how to stop being an impatient writer.
The power of 15 minutes in writing.
Five opening lines that sabotage your email’s success.
Just remember…you may indeed care about your recipient and hope they are well. Just do it at the closing. 😉
PS: don’t even get me started on email subject lines.